My Real Views

I am sharing a strong issue in our society today about living with a partner before marriage. It is pathetic that most, about 98 per cent, did not end up married couples. If they do, certainly did not last or it would not last. I sincerely want us to view this issue closely. My view before we go into anything is that it is a total wrong idea to do so.

Here is a letter that expressed a deep concern about this issue.

A Letter to Engaged Couples from the Bishops of Pennsylvania

Dear Engaged Couple,

We congratulate you on your engagement and want to offer a word of encouragement to you during this special period of preparation for marriage.

While there are many issues which you will discuss over the course of your preparation period, one important area in which many priests and couples have shared their concerns with us is that of engaged couples living together before marriage. While many in our society may see no problem with this arrangement, living together and having sexual relations before marriage can never be reconciled with what God expects of us.

In addition, countless studies have shown that couples who live together before marriage have higher rates of divorce and a poorer quality of marital relationship than those who do not.

Your engagement is meant to be a time of grace and growth in preparing for your marriage. In the months ahead, we urge all engaged couples who are living together to separate. All Catholics should seek to be reconciled with God and the Church by going to confession and by going to Mass and Holy Communion regularly.

Living chastely during your remaining months of engagement will teach you many things about one another. It will help you to grow in the virtues of generous love, sacrificial giving, self-restraint and good communication — virtues which are essential for a good and lasting marriage.

We pray that as you seek God and his way more deeply, you will be rewarded with an abundance of his grace. May your love for each other always be strong and life-giving.

With every prayerful best wish, we remain,

Sincerely yours in Christ,

The Bishops of Pennsylvania

September 1999

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This is a keen advice that is covered in sincerity and truth but here are some of the points that touched me when the truth is spoken and we just can’t get it or refuse to get it.

Reason 3: "Because of the high divorce rate, we want to see if things work out first." 

Studies consistently show that couples who live together score significantly lower in both marital communications and overall satisfaction. On the surface, a trial ru

Someone the other day made a comment about guys with facial hair and several women chimed in their disapproval of stubble, beards and basically most body hair. I was surprised. I indicated that I do not prefer men with mustaches and beards, but male natural-grown body hair didn’t bother me. I stood alone in my opinion!

In our days, it seems we preferred men that looked like men. They had strong jaws and their testosterone was obvious by the amount of hair they had on their chest and face. It seems to be a common preference among girls and women today that they want their men to spend time and money to keep all the hair off.

Some women prefer feminized men. What is that about? Why do women prefer buff, waxed and fairly pretty men, and require them to be militant in their grooming habits?

Men can be hard to understand, especially for women, and this is primarily because men and women think completely differently. If you want to understand men better, you have to take a closer look at, and gain a better understanding of the way they think versus the way a woman thinks things through. The following are three things to know when trying to understand how a man thinks:

Men tend to be one track minded, this is not to say they think about sex all of the time, as most people tend to believe, but that they generally only think about one topic at a time, whereas women will be juggling thoughts of home, career, fashion, friends, and sex all at the same time. This is one of the fundamental things to recognize when trying to understand how men think. They are not multi-taskers with the mind.

A Woman's Mind

Let’s be totally honest here, if I knew the secret formula that made men understand the goings on in a woman's head I would gain overnight fame and fortune, my name would live on as one of the greatest men in history, I would probably even win an award or two including the Nobel Prize for science and the Nobel Peace prize.

I would be a legend in my own lifetime, revered by men everywhere I went.

Alas I am just a married man with a little life experience who has learned to read the signs the hard way, through trial and error, I don't know it all and I never will, what goes on in a woman's head is a mystery to all mankind and it probably will remain that way until the end of time.

Before we can even begin to learn about what makes a woman tick we have to learn a little bit about ourselves, as the biggest mistakes we make about women come from our own perception of ourselves.

5 Mistakes Men Make

Big Mistake (1)

The male of the human species have an inbuilt ego booster that from an early age tells them to believe that every female that they encounter in their lifetime, outside of family, has the Hot's for them, they are irresistible to women and that they can have any woman that they want at the click of their fingers.

The Truth

Women like men but have

If women really loved men just as much as men loved women:

*Why is it men that generally pay for dates?

*Why do men traditionally take most of the initiatives?

*Why do some women expect men to buy them so much stuff on Valentine’s Day? Why do so many women expect flowers, spa treatments, boxes of chocolate, and other gifts from men? Don’t men also deserve these things? Shouldn’t Valentine’s Day include both genders?

*Why do women generally expect men to buy them wedding rings? Are men not “special” enough to also get a ring?

*Why do divorced men commit suicide 10xs as often as divorced women? Don’t women feel as much heartbreak after divorce?

*Why are 2/3 of breakups initiated by women? Are men less “likable”?

*Why are men traditionally objectified as disposable protectors, heroes, or breadwinners when many females seem to receive love based on their looks alone?

*Why do many women expect to be the ones to feel “protected” or “taken care of” like a princess or “damsel in distress”? Can’t a man expect these things too?

*Why are there so many more homeless men than women? Are homeless men less likely to marry and earn a woman’s love?

*Why is “chivalry” generally something that women expect from men?

*Why is the man the one expected to be the disposable “bodyguard” to get up at night if there is a loud noise?