This Christian relationship help answers the quest

This Christian relationship help answers the question: How to let go of anxiety when people you love make poor choices?

I just got off the phone with a friend distressed over a hurtful and intense argument she had with her husband where both of them brought up all the weapons in their arsenal including past resentments and personal attacks. From the surface, you might say they have serious marriage problems, however, I know that the catalyst for this argument was something else: a teenage daughter making poor choices. They had been dealing with this daughter's lies, drinking, bulimia, and pot smoking for a year. She was now endangering her college scholarship and both parents were feeling anxious, out of control, and powerless. The solution: Put the anxiety and energy onto someone or something else. It was easier for them to argue with each other about