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7 Risky Questions Every Wife Needs to Ask

 

What's it like to be married to me?

A wife and especially a wife who is also a Mom, lives her life scattered and segmented. She sighs: "I never think about my marriage.  My life is a treadmill, and I can’t stop running and think.  I just move from one area of need to another.  My children and job scream louder than my husband, so he gets the leftovers of me." (married 14 years)

Believe me, I understand.  I had three children in three years, adopted a fourth when he was a teen, and had teenagers ages 13, 14,15 and 17.  I can still feel that overwhelming scatteredness that made my head spin.

When life is wild, we don’t stop and think about our priorities.  We don’t think about what is really important.  We don’t take time to look at God’s Word and call out to Him, “Search my heart, O God!”
 
I realized I couldn’t wait until life slowed down to think about my marriage ….I had to do it now.  So I got brave and asked myself risky questions like, "What is it like to be married to me?" God met me in the middle of the questions.  Will you be brave and ask risky questions?

What is REALLY important to me?

“I work a stressful job and come home to kids, cooking, laundry, and a husband with needs.  Everyone at home and work wants a piece of me.”  Another wife said it like this:  “I never think about my marriage.  My life is a treadmill, and I can’t stop running and think.”
 
Do you realize that your choices reveal what is important to you?  When I had three little ones, I realized that my choices must say that my husband is my first priority of all the people on earth. I could push my relationship with my husband off until life got easier but I decided that normal life means hectic, normal means time is at a premium, that time as a couple is hard to come by. I knew that I could live my marriage by default or by design. It was my choice.
 
I’m so grateful that when the kids were little, I stopped to think about my marriage and chose to have a marriage by design. Now, in the empty nest, we are reaping the benefits!


What does it feel like to be my husband?

“I criticize my husband on a daily basis." (married 17 years)

“I take my husband for granted.  He gets the worst part of me on my bad days and what’s left of me most days." (married 34 years)

Are these husband comments typical?  I’m sorry to say they are.  Solomon described many wives when he said, “A nagging wife is like a dripping

60 Comments

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26 months ago

Thanks Ms. Jan K, but the crab mentality of some people, when you are on top! Somebody wants to let you down, somebody is questioning your success, somebody is giving you an issue and alot more!!! For me i become no. 1 bcoz i work hard and i focused on the traffic of my ads!!!

26 months ago

This is really2 good. GOOD TO KNOW, GOOD TO PRACTICE, GOOD TO BE OUR ROUTINE. Thank so much for sharing

24 months ago

thanks for sharing..good info..:)

24 months ago

this has a lot of really good information a lot of people need to read this!!

24 months ago

very nice. post..

24 months ago

nice post!

24 months ago

You are good in keeping up with the challenges of life with the presence of mind in responsibilities.

23 months ago

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23 months ago

Great post! Well done!

22 months ago

very inspiring...nice post. worth reading....thanks for sharing

22 months ago

nice post reviewed 5*

22 months ago

A marriage life is a long and sacred life bound between two people, each one of them should know that their marriage life is for them and they are the only people who are responsible to get their marriage be succeeded. The success is only done by themselves, when they win, they win together, when they lose, they lose together. Love is the most important thing in this sacred bond. Life could be pink through our love. When we love we do everything better in our life. When we love I give you my life as a sacrifice with my love. With love I say to you “I Love You”. With my love, I make our home in peace and calm. With love I love your family as my family. With my love I love to be patient, with love we can make our life beauty together and to overcome the difficulties face us. With love I can go with you wherever you want, as you will be with me, no thing else is important. With you I love be older together, and to offer our helpful hands and advices to the others and relate our love story to our family to know how to love and to overcome the difficulties in their life.

21 months ago

: very good post ms erika! ^_^

21 months ago

this is nice

20 months ago

beautiful

20 months ago

its good to know how two people accept each other and went in to so called marriage...but every individual should be very responsible in everything since marriage is very critical situation,so must be ready and mind wised.nice post erika!

20 months ago

nice to share knowledge thanks god bless you

20 months ago

i always think "what is REALLY important to me?"

20 months ago

nice post dear

19 months ago

erika, it is very good post. people need to read this

19 months ago

wowww, no wonder you're #1.. great post. excellent.. kudos..

19 months ago

Oh Nice

19 months ago

nice post

19 months ago

a wonderful day, a week with many successful, long sun soul, the heart to be your happy, do not know sadness .... I visited with great pleasure, and would visit it if you'd like me with thanks from the heart

18 months ago

Hi Erika, I comand you for the courage to bring God into the picture of marriage in your post. Obviously you look at things from His perspective. It's refreshing to see it.

I pray that you continue to have a wonderful life with your husband and grow closer every day :-) Much admiration and respect ,

18 months ago

wonderful article here i love question number ten.... spending your aging together thanks for sharing

18 months ago

nice post

18 months ago

great post!!

17 months ago

very great

17 months ago

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17 months ago

Nicely compiled and presented, thumbs up

17 months ago

I like it. thanks 4 share...

17 months ago

great info about love so nice post i like it

16 months ago

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16 months ago

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16 months ago

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16 months ago

Very good your post,I like it, Thanks for sharing

14 months ago

nice info

14 months ago

The beginning of marriage is when the honeymoon is over and this is when the battle for the real survival of the marriage starts. It is much like building a house first you lay a good foundation then you work your way up. It takes time to make a marriage work because it involves two completely different people trying to mold themselves into one person. Nice post.

14 months ago

So very true ... nicely said Salsa!!

3 months ago