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Solving Communication Problems in Relationships

Suppose your partner says something unkind to you, and you feel hurt. If you reply right away, you risk making the situation worse. The best practice is to

breathe in and out to calm yourself, and when you are calm enough, say, "Darling, what you just said hurt me. I would like to look deeply into it, and I

would like you to look deeply into it, also." Then you can make an appointment for Friday evening to look at it together. One person looking at the roots of

your suffering is good, two people looking at it is better, and two people looking together is best.