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Regrets at deathbed

by George of the j on November 13, 2011

Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed...

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
 
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late.

4 Comments

very nice sharing.. seldom found an article like this post. ty

18 months ago

very nice blog.

18 months ago

somehow people had to choose differently from the true self because they are worried about other's reaction. I am included.
It was quite recently I thought to myself that I want my family to know me better. I have been doing the opposite for almost 10 year because I feel I need to for my parent. It was not a good choice because I had to let it out somehow - I turned myself to the comfort I always turned to when depressed -food.
Now I just feel maybe my old friends a bit stunt to see who I really am and I got worried.
Right I decided perhaps this time let Allah show me the way.
And I won't regret after this. Just be true to yourself.

17 months ago