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10 Marriage Rules You Should Break

The two of you should do everything together; work out every disagreement (without actuallyfighting); spend every night in the same bed; and never, ever be bored. Say what?! These and other so-called “rules” for marriage need some serious debunking. And it’s not just because rules your mother may have passed on are outdated; some may be downright damaging. In fact, “breaking some marriage ‘rules’ may be the best thing you can do for your relationship,” says Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, psychotherapist and author of Why Did I Marry You Anyway? Here are 10 rules you can break with confidence.

1. Never go to bed angry. 
Where did this one come from? Turns out, it may go as far back as the Bible, which advises not letting the sun go down on your anger. But trying to work through a problem when you’re tired and stressed won’t get you anywhere, says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, psychologist and author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. “Agree to disagree for now, and to revisit the issue when you’re rested.”


2. Always be 100% honest. 
In marriage, no-holds-barred honesty is not always the best policy. For example, “you don’t need to share details of past relationships,” says Bartlein. “That invites comparisons, and when you compare, someone comes up short.” The bottom line: You need to be polite and caring when it comes to your partner’s feelings.

27 Comments

Is it rules to break or not to break?

18 months ago

wonderful its just amazing post i never seen a post like this.you have inserted.always think newly that can creat e c big change.you know we youth have alot of passion and inspiration which can lead us to a succes future.so guys just keep worked hard and makes new post dnt copy ther peoples.

18 months ago

Thoughtful comments

18 months ago

GOOD READING

18 months ago

i think it should be titled. 10 marriage rules you should not break

18 months ago

hey i love ur way

16 months ago

I love it, thanks 4 share...

16 months ago

it should be- 10 marriage rules you shouldnt break?

15 months ago

Thanks for sharing... it's for remembering?

13 months ago

LL baby I agree....these are not rules I would break unless I wanted my marriage to end..LOL

13 months ago

thanks

12 months ago

definitely agree with your post

12 months ago

interesting :) couples must read this before they're getting married :) thanks for sharing

12 months ago

ya i agree new couple must read this..............tq

12 months ago

ya it's nice one

8 months ago

very nice article...... thank you...

8 months ago

Very good tips there. Thanks Flor for sharing.

8 months ago

My friend: this is very confusing and many times deadly wrong! Get a clue!

8 months ago

One positive note: the title sounds good!

8 months ago

wow great post........ very nice tips....thanks

8 months ago

great work...

8 months ago

great post..

7 months ago

Great Post.

6 months ago

The title is correct. Why sleep in the same bed if you can't take the snoring (lol). I know of a couple who don't sleep in the same bed but they are A-Ok! Likewise, space is needed at times. Go on vacation without each other once in awhile. What is important is you know your limits and keep the love alive !

6 months ago

this means a lot to couples..:) thanks for sharing this to everyone...

6 months ago