Good Grief!

nice.!!

Hi Sara L

I really enjoyed reading about your way of dealing with bereavement. I lost my husband in February after he fought and lost an ugly battle with cancer. He was a fanatical mountaineer so I gave all his climbing gear to the Mountain Club so that beginners can use this equipment until they're sure they are going to climb seriously and can then buy their own equipment. I thought this would be a great memorial to Mac, especially as he did so much for them.

When I have the courage to collect his ashes from the funeral home, the Mountain Club is going to arrange for family members to be ferried up to Tonquani in the Magaliesberg where we will strew his ashes. I think he would have loved my idea as Tonquani was one of his favourite climbing sites.

Stay well.

about 15 years ago we had 13 died from feb the 14th to the following feb the 22. so i can relate to losing several people to death.

Thank you, Khalil, Julie, and Tania for commenting! I am sorry I didn't know how to see who had commented on my posts until recently. Plus, I was inactive for a while (and kept earning while I was away)!

Wow this is something and I am sorry for your losses all in a short time. I really like your story telling as well. I can feel the words as I read them and that is a great thing. Talk to you soon Friend Sara Ms Mona

Thanks, Mona. it's coming up on a year since my uncle passed. It's going to be rough, I'm sure.

Really sorry for death that you had. I love your story. To trust in God, God Bless you

Thank you for your comments.

nice post :)

I touched on your post.

great post i lost my husband recently

Dealing with loss can be difficult at times, especially when one is hit with 3-4 or more within a relatively short period of time. Different people have different ways of coping with their losses. I think yours are very healthy ways. Thanks for the sharing.

Hi Sara yes a loss can be a time of reflection and when one loses several as you have it can make the burden that much harder to cope with. We have also lost the last of our family and relatives over the last 5 years and we have been fortunate enough to have memorial videos of their services plus other mementos and Ray has delivered the eulogy for each of our mothers and father and step father. We have created a memorial box for each loved one and kept special items in them along with the videos.

Ray also had several videos of his mother and step dad that we keep in the memorial box as well.

Grief is an ongoing process and yes it does get easier as the days go by, but as you stated it is by keeping alive the happy memories in our minds and hearts we honour our loved ones and this helps along the grieving process.

Robyn & Ray

Hello Sara, I am so sorry for your losses and I know how you feel as I have had my share of losses as well, people who were very close to me. The way you are dealing with it is a good way. Cling on to those precious memories and that's about all we can do. The pain of loss gets a little less after time goes by, never totally, but we learn to deal with it. Unfortunately, death is a part of life. As a friend once said, "Your loved one is not gone, it's just that they changed their address".... Until we meet again.
Thanks for sharing and by doing this, you are helping all of us with our grief.

Thank you to all of you who have taken the time to comment. I apologize for the delay in responding. I've been away from FanBox for a while, but I'm back now!