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Waiting up to a year is rude in my opinion. If you can't come up with a gift in time for the wedding, you are just being inconsiderate. The wedding couple and families likely spend a lot of money so their guests could enjoy a party so the couple could celebrate with their closest friends and family. Show some respect and appreciation.

Not sure these people really ever were good enough to be considered "friends" Time for the couple to move on without them in their lives.

@ Warren: As a man, thanks for recognizing this. Not all guys are clueless. Yes, it is definitely rude and inconsiderate to wait almost a year to give a wedding gift. The wedding couple spent a great deal of time and money into planning the wedding, and to have people attend their wedding (who they thought were friends) without receiving a wedding gift is a slap in their face.

I was at a wedding on Saturday, It was a very posh event. It even had "Open Bar". That's
where the Brides Father springs for all the drink. The Dinner was a Filet Mignon. Plenty of hor d'overes. It was held at a Private Golf Club on the outskirts of Boston, The Sky was the limit I told my Buddy to cut the Bride and Groom .a check for $200. They left for their Honeymoon in Aruba yesterday. I feel that was worth it as all the women had bought something for the Bridal Shower.

@ Liam; That's a very generous wedding gift =) I've been to several types of these weddings and know that the wedding couple went all out so the least you can do is give a nice wedding gift. Great job! At least you're one man who knows about wedding etiquette...

I am sorry to say that obviously these three guys you mentionned have never been your friend' friends,
and as colleagues, i have seen better behaving ones. It is not always the amount the gift costs that counts, but you have to let your friends know that you are happy that they marry their loved one, no matter how small the gift. That's for love and friendship. Now, these guys are not even polite!
interesting post, All (is that your first name, may i ask respectfully?)

@ Patrick: I agree...these 3 guys definitely don't act like friends. Thanks for pointing that out. In fact it's down right rude in my opinion. And no, my name is Arlene...LOL =)

@ Jenny: The ones that RSVP "yes" but don't show up are the worst...they have no respect for the wedding couple because usually those meals are already paid for in advance. That's a shame that happened to you. If there was no valid reason for the absence I personally would disown these "friends."

i thought as much, thanks for sharing and Lol!

i think i agree with ange..

So I guess we can conclude these 3 guys aren't good friends at all. I agree with Ange that I wouldn't want to be judged on how much I gave for a wedding gift, but at least I had the courtesy from the heart to give something to begin with, because that's just the type of person I am. Like I said, I would never accept a wedding invitation if I knew I couldn't get the wedding couple a gift.

nice post. nice story

A week ago I was on one wedding. There are similar cases with a little different excuses happend.
A very nice topic.

great post