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One point that gets made a lot is that abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. I honestly have yet to meet anyone or anyone that knows directly of anyone that uses it as a method of birth control. Have you?

The best thing is to avoid the unwanted pregnancy to begin with, as the arguments for and against abortion both carry great weight. However, once the woman becomes pregnant, if due to rape or accident, then abortion is a viable alternative to the unwanted pregnancy. If she is married or in a relationship with the father, and she simply decides she does not want the baby, she should be counseled regarding the adoption alternative. However, the decision to keep or abort the baby is hers. I also think it would be a good idea that she consult with the father if at all possible. After all, the father had at least a 50% portion in creating the situation, so his insight into the resolution could be helpful and meaningful. As always, the parties should pray to God for guidance.

Thank you Jeffrey - that's a great comment. I've had a lot of people who didn't want to comment here writing me and that's cool too - I am just trying to get some different views together here. It's really fascinating where people stand on the spectrum.

Yes I do know someone who used it as birth control, she did it on two different occasions neither of which was she using anything to prevent the pregnancy. They did so much damage to her body that she is now deemed unable to have children. I am not one that believes its a life the moment its created I believe its a life when the heart starts beating. I remember seeing an ultra sound of my son when he was really young and he was moving his little stubs of arms and legs all over the place. What a lot of people don't want to take into account is that baby feels pain. I have seen an ultra sound video that has been engraved in my mind forever it was one of a woman getting an abortion the doctor that did it refused to ever do an abortion again after that. I am more understanding when it comes to rape or if having the baby will kill the woman other then that you made your choice when you laid down with the man...... just my honest opinion

@Jenny -powerful points made. Thank you so much for your input. I seem to remember that a baby's heartbeat starts around 18 days after conception (someone correct me if I'm wrong - it's been a while since I had my kids and was reading voraciously about being pregnant LOL).

@YouKnowWhoYouAre - no putting anyone on blast - I am just looking for opinions now matter how far on one side or the other - all are welcome. I deleted that nasty little comment you made. Rephrase it so it's not attacking anyone and it can stay.

wow I am impressed at the number of emails I've gotten on this subject. Thank you everyone for your input.
Here are a few comments
@Allison - feels abortion should be a crime and the mother prosecuted for murder 1. Forced adoption should be done to any woman wanting an abortion.
(from JoLynn- that just seems very harsh and would adoptive homes be available for all the children?)

@Rhonda - states her birth control method failed and she was in an abusive relationship also SA (substance abuse) and she chose abortion as she honestly wasn't sure a baby would be born without defects or she would be able to do carry a child to term due to her volatile relationship.
(from JoLynn - I have nothing to say).

@Alan - golden boy says any woman that would have an abortion is a wh*re and should die.
(from JoLynn - I disagree with your assessment).


@Ken - thanks for your concern about my uterus but no, I personally never had an abortion. I am on the opposite side of pregnancy - it was VERY difficult for me to conceive - I am very lucky to have had the 3 babies I did. BUT I personally believe that abortion in the first trimester should be a legal option for any woman that wants it.

@Jenny Lee sent me a video I want to share with you. I'm pro-choice and even this video won't change that fact because I think it's an option that should be there for any woman that feels she needs it. BUT if you want to understand the abortion procedure - view it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x_KvVMZw_a4&feature=related

Good thoughts Chicka! I think a huge part of the issue is lack of education. I recall hearing from one mother that her daughter got pregnant because the boy convinced that he loved her and they'd be together forever and oh yeah, if we "do it" standing up - you won't get pregnant. And yeah, those illegal, back alley operations have to go.

@Chicka you were so lucky to have a good teacher. I grew up in the Buckle of the Bible Belt. Our sex ed consisted of basically - if you "did it" you would get hit by a bus and go to hell. Looking back it's amazing that more of the girls I knew didn't get knocked up simply because of a lack of sex ed.

@Liz wrote me and states Chicka and JoLynn are NUTZ. Sex education has proven to lead to MORE SEX. Abstinence is the only way!!!!!

(from JoLynn- in a perfect world abstinence would work but humans are biological, hormonal creatures and especially with so much "adult" input via television, videos, Internet and games at younger and younger ages - experimentation is going to happen. I'd much rather my kids had a grasp on facts than learn the facts of life from a peer who just wanted to take advantage of them... Chicka...I'll hold your coat this time ...hahahaha)

@Chicka - absolutely. It's not the job of the schools, your preachers, your teachers or neighbors to educate your children -it is the PARENTS' job. Because if you don't - someone will be waiting in the wings to do it. Make sure your kids understand possible consequences of sex. Oh You'll LOVE this.

If it hadn't been for school sex ed in my case (the one where if we "did it" we would most likely die) I would have been more clueless than I was.

My mother's big sex ed talk involved handing me a Red Book (remember that smarmy magazine?) before my first big date when I was 16. Holy Toledo - WTF was a freakin' Red Book supposed to do????
Mom's answer: I was supposed to use it to put in a boy's lap if I sat in it so I wouldn't get pregnant.
WTF????
I don't know who was more shy- my fella or me... It was mortifying.....
My mother was such a fail.

@Tom I'll answer here: I think judging a woman that has had an abortion isn't your job and if you know all these "aborting whores" personally as you claim - where the heck are you hanging out?

what more could i possibly say here now, lol. it is good to get this kind of discussion out in the open. I never really got the talk about the birds and the bees. Boy was I in the dark there for awhile. I think it's great when a parent talks this subject over with their child.

Nothing could have beat the non-talk I got with the magazine LOL

nice

This is a tough decision for many different reasons. I am personally against abortion and think it is killing a child. However, I recognize the fact that if somebody wants an abortion they will do it anyways. That is my huge dilemma regarding abortion...

I think it is a two part solution. First, we need to have better sex education classes to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Second, we need t educate people before they have an abortion and let them know adoption is an option.

@Jo,looking forward for this ''All day underwear with safety lock combination to prevent pregnancies''lol!

@Nikki - bwa hahahahahhhaha oh that's funny~!

I'm opposed to abortion- always will be. I think all this talk about what it is, when life begins, etc is a bunch of crap and is nothing more than an excuse to back up whatever claim you raise about it. I'm opposed to ANYONE getting an abortion but I am NOT your judge and deliverer so if you make the choice to do this, it's between you and the God you'll answer to now or answer to later.

Abortion is a difficult decision, if you have any soul at all. I don't know about all women but I don't expect that the majority of women and teens who get this done, do so lightly. It's easier for people who've never done it to stand by and run their mouths, men and women alike. To those who've been through it- for whatever reason they did it -I feel sympathy, sadness and yes, some anger.

I think that there are a lot of women who need to just keep their legs closed and stop having babies. Just because you CAN have children, doesn't necessarily mean you SHOULD. If you can't even take care of yourself, you don't need to be popping out babies just because you are too damn lazy to practice birth control or abstinence.

Adoption is also an option but I don't say that lightly. At this moment, there are THOUSANDS of children in the United States waiting to be adopted. Many of them won't be, if for no other reason, they're 1) too old to be adopted as babies are snatched up faster and 2) their birth parents are not out of their lives. I've been on every side of this subject except for adopting children myself so I know the ins and outs of this subject. I've had 2 of my own children adopted by another family and I'm adopted myself. I was actually one of the "fortunate" ones as I was adopted at 7 years old. Although my childhood was still rough, I'm still one of the fortunate ones, but I digress as this subject is about ABORTION, not ADOPTION.

As I said, I'm pro-life in this area. I stipulate that because I'm also pro-death-penalty. I believe every child who is conceived, has a right to a life just as anyone who has been born. I don't believe women who are pregnant with a child should get rid of it because they were drunk when they got "knocked up" or because they were raped-why is it the child's fault? Aside from that and those being my own personal views, I leave the choice up to the women involved. My views run deep and I have sympathies for women who are addicted to drugs and destructive life styles (I am NOT talking about cannabis here, on the contrary, I believe that cannabis is good and God-given).

It's always easy, as I said, for people to force their opinions and beliefs on others. I learned a long time ago that that's about as effective as a screen door in a submarine. Everyone believes what they do- they grow or develop or drop whatever beliefs they hold as their lives progress.

God bless you. I pray that you will be blessed by what I said.

good post

I am PRO LIFE .. God Blessed me with one beautiful baby girl and she is the most precious treasure to me:)
I think of abortion as murder unless the mother will die then she should decide.

if the drs had told me i'd die if i gave birth i would have still had my baby girl and die giving my life for hers:)
there's no greater joy to me then motherhood!! i can't have anymore babies and wish i couldve . it makes me sad thinking of how many babies are murdered every second of everyday:(