Rashmi..The LUV Guru

Yes well done ? I am a professional Counsellor and a Marriage Counselling is my living! it is amazing how many people seek after a marriage counsellor instead of divorce counselling. I am at the mind here that all people are basically good people and only turn nasty when misunderstood.We all like to be understood and get anoyed when we dont get out message out? As a good reader of other people some times it is not what they say, its what they do. We can read body language if a person dont speak to you watch what the body is saying?One thing that I have learned and continue to learn every day, that not every situation is the same as the other, and we should never, never, I said never try to get things right with a wife in front of a public witness.There should never be anger when trying to solve a problem between a man and his wife. If anger is present wait until it subside and then, and only then open up the conversation, saying very little, allowing the other person to express their opion first. Then yyou get a clear picture of the way the other person see's this before you give out your opinons. This way we see that some of our opinions was wrong or maybe never need to be expressed at all, because wisdom has stepped in and problem solved itself. Other times there are apologies made on both side and discusion goes on with a love in the air?I have to say that with my self my guide is the Spirit of God, as a Christian this become first nature, not practiced to be second nature?