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* Arlene * helps shelters for abused women and children.

The Difference Between Real Love and Fantasy

As children, we often form a fantasy of what real love looks like. Though we may paint a pretty picture in our minds, this fantasy isn't necessarily built on the admirable qualities we truly desire in a partner. Instead, it may be based on gaps we hope to one day fill, mistakes we aim to correct, and familiarities we've grown accustomed to. We may seek a partner whose outpour of compliments submerges the low self-esteem we held as kids or someone whose allusive tendencies are a sadly familiar reenactment of an important figure from our childhood.

102 Comments

whoa........ did you mean fantasizing about someone can lead to love? Sorry I was just assuming that... anyway it's something to try not unless you want to be branded as a maniac hahaha. There was too much there to read and I'm kinda intoxicated right now. Anyways I was just joking about being drunk. Love your post. Your own intuition will tell you eventually if the love you have right now is the real thing or just a fantasy. Don't just get fooled or be over infatuated with someone. Uh where is that beer again........

26 months ago

True Love is when your heart flutters when you think of that someone and makes you smile just thinking of being with them!

26 months ago

good you elaborate well

26 months ago

Thats amazing post you made here

26 months ago

good
very well said .

26 months ago

Good ,

26 months ago

oh..very nice .very good

26 months ago

love is nathing to do!

26 months ago

oooh very good!!!!

26 months ago

I want about you?

26 months ago

lovely post

25 months ago

hello sexy ur so fine

25 months ago

oooh very good!!!!

25 months ago

thank you for sharing..very informative..:)

25 months ago

ngon

25 months ago

oh very good

25 months ago

Passionate but realistic writings..................

25 months ago

its verryyy gooooooooood

25 months ago

I hope everyone gets a chance to know what love is...

25 months ago

hi there name is emet hernandez nice to meet you cuty i think that in order to work him n her its a must do ,,, be honest,, faith full ,, n sencere , and comunication, among , both ,partys
you know i just turn 46 mi bday, i mised this girl so much that i marry her she was a dialysis patient
i lived happy for 15 yrs in that time i had some like this from her sisters that i had asked for sex
but were lies i never rose mi voice i never i know that youi guys are not going to belive but in them
15 i never lie , i never did nothing out side mi comitment that i did to her her bday is on the 13 of may mine is ending in 45 minutes more
besides that all the arguments we had it was for her family ... its been 11yrs that she past
i missed her so much
But cant bring her back thats life suffering been sick for life thats not life
life should be made by the human ,, simple you tell me whats simple if life were simple
then why do you worry about it ... yes simple for a 2yr okd kid
i did not made life with her cos of that like to know more IM at \\emetdez\\@yajoo\\.com\\

25 months ago

To Emetdez's comment, I totally agree...

25 months ago

I loved this it was very informative and I gained a great perspective on past fantasy relationships!!

25 months ago

NOW i bow my head and say (I agree to all ur words)

25 months ago

very good!

25 months ago

IT IS CAN HARD NOW A DAY TO FIND TRUE LOVE, FANTASY IS EASY TO ACCEOT IT AND BE, BUT ACTUALLY, U MAY NOT FIND THE ONE U OR THEY BELIVE, MATERIALISM SUPPRES AND CLOUDS THE ATMOSFEAR. NEVER RAIN IN SUMMER AND NEVER SHAINE IN DEC. BUT IN OTHER COUNTIES SUCH ASIA EVERY THING POSSIBLE AMAZING, ISN'T IT? TODAY LOVE LAST FOR CERTIN PERIOD OF TIME THEN LOGICE STARTS TO SHADOW THE TRUTH, WHICH A LOT OF PEOPLE DO NOT LIKE, BECAUSE THEY LOVE TO BE IN THE DREAM, THAT WHY ALCHOL SPREAD WIEDLY.

25 months ago

nice post ;)

25 months ago

yes i love your post

25 months ago

thats a under statement

25 months ago

u people comment very well. well done to you all.

25 months ago

good post ty sharing.... the word love can mean so many different things and kind of loves, be well~~Amy

25 months ago

wow very very good presioso

24 months ago

interesting

24 months ago

it's good interesting

24 months ago

Very well said. Thanks for posting

23 months ago

ik ben frank uit turnhout

23 months ago

thats great

22 months ago

LOVE IS THE MOSTBIGEST WORD IN WORLD.

21 months ago

hmm

21 months ago

nice

21 months ago