Secret Thoughts, Desires, Dating

Calling a Girl for the First Time? Part 4

It’s an absolute must to keep a pen and paper by the phone and write down the names of any of her friends, family members, or pets that she might tell you about in this first call. Do not underestimate the importance of this. 

When you talk to her the next time you meet her and ask her a question regarding how things are with a particular friend etc, you’ll be using their correct name. This helps her to build trust with you and will generate massive levels of attraction towards you. Most guys would’ve forgotten her pets name by the time they meet up with her two days later…but not you.

This will add high value to you during your first meeting with her when you ask her questions regarding her friends etc whilst also addressing them with the correct name. For this reason, take down as many details as you can during this first call.

This first call is going to be as short as possible. You will not allow yourself to get stuck on the phone with her no matter how well you are connecting with her. This is exactly how women will get bored with you and loose interest. You don’t know enough about her to chat to her on the phone for extended periods and it will backfire on you. Make the call short and sweet. This will also leave her wanting more. Make sure you’re the one who ends the phone call.

You do not want to talk about the weather or your work, and you do not want to talk to her about meaningless details like where her brother lives. You want to talk to her about feelings and use descriptive stories to convey emotions. Of course you’re going to get caught up in some meaningless small talk about details, but steer the conversation away from this and attempt to build more attraction via playful flirting.

Try using these conversation points throughout the first call to help you stay on track and get her to agree to meet you for a coffee. When you do ask her to meet you for coffee, make sure you tell her where and when you want to take her so she can respond with a direct answer. Otherwise she might respond with “so where exactly did you want to take me,…and what time?” When she responds with this, it forces you to explain yourself more before she gives you an answer and it ruins your natural conversational dynamics.