Secret Thoughts, Desires, Dating

Calling a Girl for the First Time? Part 1.

Ok so you’ve got her number and now it’s time to call her. Now you’ve gone through the work of getting her number so it’s crucial here that you don’t mess it up with this first phone call.

Although you’ve had to establish a connection with her in order to get her number, no matter how good that connection was, the dynamics of this first phone call are going to be different.

The connection that you established in order to get her number has long gone, so this first phone call has got to be right. And yes, it has to be a phone call. The majority of women when surveyed admitted that they prefer a man to call them, rather than text them.

It shows women you’re man enough to call them, rather than tread around the edges with text messages. Text messages can sometimes confuse the issue as she may not get your sense of humour and texts fail to convey emotion which is what women are all about. However most women will just think you haven’t got the courage to call them if you text them first.

Also, texting her is a risky approach as she may not reply to it, and any messages you send after she hasn’t replied will cause you to come across as needy or desperate.

Texting her usually only works if she has initiated the first contact via sending you a text message. Then its fine then to text her back. But women will also text you first as a means of getting you to call them. It’s fine to respond to a couple of texts but you really need to call her to set up the first date

Don’t get caught up in texting marathons with her as this will be too much hard work for you in the end, and it will also take away from the mystery and anticipation of meeting you again. You’ll end up having to constantly work at coming up with witty and interesting replies to all of her little messages and you’re breaking the rule of ‘minimum contact before the second date’.

This minimum contact rule is founded upon the principle that the more you say to a woman before the second date, the more likely you are to blow your chances with her. Knowing this, let’s get back to the first phone call. There is no right time to call her. A lot has been said about this, but ultimately, every girl is different. While one girl might experience exciting anticipation as she waits for your call for a few days, another girl might just think you’re a wimp for not calling her sooner and an ass for making her wait. There is no perfect time to call her.

In saying that, no one likes talking to voice mail so ideally you might want to call her after 5.30 so she’s not at work and she can actually take the call. But remember, the best time to call her is when you feel good, and you’re in a confident mood.