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How to Be Strong

When faced with difficult circumstances, why do some people falter and spiral towards self-destruction while others survive and even thrive once the storm has passed? No one is immune to adversity, but some people seem to be better able to cope with and recover from even the most strenuous conditions. At the core of their strength is a mindset that allows them to carry on through thick and thin. Fortunately, this mindset is no secret. Emotional resiliency has been written about, studied and even measured, revealing some insights as to how anyone can be strong. Here are some ways to build your own inner strength.

Steps:

1. Remember that you are in control. Strength implies having power and being able to affect one's own life, while weakness implies being powerless and helpless. No matter what your circumstances, there are things you can control, and things you can't. The key is to focus on the things you can control. Make a list of all the things that are troubling you, then make a list of all the things you can do to make each situation better. Accept the items on the first list (they are what they are) and focus your energy on the second list.

a. In studies of people with a high Adversity Quotient (AQ) it's observed that resilient people always find some aspect of any situation that they can control, and they also feel responsible for taking action to fix the situation, even if their hardship was caused by someone else. Those with a low AQ, however, ignore opportunities to take action and deflect accountability, presuming that because they didn't create the situation, they should not be the ones to