Overcoming Shyness
The Pathway & Methods for Success!
The rewards for overcoming shyness are enormous! A completely new world will be opened up to you. The good news is that once you have broken through you’ll probably ask yourself, “What was the big deal?” To get there, however, it will take some determination and hard work. But I assure you that the benefits GREATLY outweigh the amount of effort needed to conquer it.
One of the Shyest People I Knew
I was once the one of the shyest people I knew. In preschool, I sometimes hid underneath wooden fruit crates after the other kids had removed all the balls inside at the start of recess.
Through out much of middle and high school I ate lunch alone. I usually left the school grounds during the lunch break so that the other students wouldn’t see that I was eating alone. I didn’t want them to find out how shy I was. (This was true during the short time I was in public school, but not as much while I was in the boy's home because we all lived together. For more details, click: About BP - Bio.)
During my first two years of college, I was so shy that I was constantly in a state of panic when I ate a meal in the cafeteria, as I sat in class for fear that I might be called on, and when I met with a professor in their office.
At this point in my life, the idea of overcoming shyness seemed like a distant possibility for me. Even so, I never gave up on my dream to overcome it.
When a Fortune 500 company hired me as a management trainee, I was repeatedly put into situations where I had to deal with my shyness. I’ll never forget the first staff meeting where I was required to give a short presentation. It was the most humiliating and agonizing event of my life!
Even when I walked into the entrance hall where people gathered before going into a business meeting I would panic. “How should I act? What should I say if someone approaches me?” I would think to myself.
The requirements for social interaction and public speaking increased with each promotion I got. I eventually became a regional division head and later a national marketing manager responsible for generating 400 million dollars in annual product sales. In order to met the requirements of these positions I had to learn about overcoming shyness and the fear of public speaking.
Proper Perspective about Overcoming Shyness
One of the most amazing things I learned during my journey is that many people who I perceived as NOT being shy were in fact very shy themselves. I’ve concluded that shyness is simply a normal human condition. I see it as one of those childhood based fears that we eventually grow out of or learn to control if we choose to do so. Some people choose never to face it or they never find themselves in a situation where that are forced to deal with it. My story is a combination of both of these.
Another equally amazing thing is the response I would get when I asked people how I did after delivering a speech or attending an important social function. I was always stunned when people would tell me how cool, relaxed, and confident I appeared because inside I felt scared, incompetent, and shy.
So one of the most important lessons to learn for overcoming shyness is that almost everyone is shy or has experienced being shy some time in their lives. I have been astounded many times by people who I knew as being supremely confident and socially skilled to report to me how excruciatingly shy they once were, and in some cases how they still are but that they had learned to control it.
The other important thing to remember about overcoming shyness is that the way people see you is frequently much different from the why you see yourself. Other people cannot hear the discouraging things that you’re saying to yourself or often even detect your nervousness. Why? Because they are usually more consumed with their own thoughts about how they are being viewed by YOU!
Shyness Can Be Good
In the dating world, both men and women often see shyness as a point of attraction. There is a fine line however. If a person does NOT allow their shyness to hold them back from trying, that is attractive. In contrast, if a person DOES allow shyness to hold them back, that is unattractive.
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Tips
->Just know that everyone, at least most of us, are shy to some level the difference is the degree, and know that at some age this will happen but soon it will go away so don't worry and stress about it you can change if you want to.you might be saying its hard but to your surprise its extremely easy.*
->Remember that shyness is an emotion, not a permanent personality trait! You have the power to change your feelings of shyness and act in a bolder manner.
->There's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either!
->You can also overcome shyness permanently, by using methods base on emotional autosuggestion.
->Deep breathing helps overcome nervousness.
->Focus more on logic, try to avoid being overwhelmed by emotions.
->Keep working at it. It may take you time to feel more comfortable, don't get discouraged.
->As time passes, you'll notice that you've actually beaten a bit of that shyness. Think of it as a motivation to keep on!
->Remember, if you find the courage to speak and not be afraid you will become more comfortable with that concept and eventually act that way almost all the time.
->If you think everyone is looking at you, such as when crossing the road or walking through a public place, watch someone else do the same thing and really take note to see if other people are watching that person. You will be surprised to realize that we are not that noticed by others in the grand scheme of things!
->Don't be afraid to seek professional help; group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way. Sometimes it's more than just shyness, and it's important to realize that. Social Anxiety Disorder is often seen as "extreme shyness", so make sure that you know what you have.
->Smile often. People will think of you as more approachable, and you will do better socially. Smile when people talk to you so they know you're interested in conversation. NOTE: This can be overdone and if you smile too hard or too much it can be creepy.
->Give yourself lots of time to talk. Speaking slowly gives you more time to think about what to say, as well as often adding weight to your words.
->Many children grow out of their shyness.
->Perhaps your shyness comes from stage fright? If you're having difficulties speaking in front of an audience, it is a good idea to choose a person in the audience that you feel comfortable around, and keep your eyes on them the entire time, as if your speech were directed at them. Eventually, you will be able to let your eyes roam around the room, connecting with each member of the audience.
->If it is too difficult to look at anyone in the audience, try focusing on an object amidst or near the audience, such as a spot on the wall behind them.
->Overcome stage fright by imagining you are someone else, such as a favorite celebrity you admire. Picture yourself as that person until you feel comfortable onstage.
->When talking to someone you admire, be confident and be yourself. Share interest you both enjoy, it should break the ice and you`ll become great friends at first!
->Tell yourself how far you've come from where your shyness began. If you used to be really shy, and now you're a little bit less, tell yourself that's such a big accomplishment because losing your shyness isn't easy!
->Playing games is a great way to slowly break out of your shell and talk to people.
->JOIN SOME CLUBS! Join a club you are interested in and other people in there enjoy it too obviously! This is a great way to make friends and show who you really are. To be around people just like you.
->If you're shy because you are scared of what people might say about you, they can also do that when you're not shy. The fact is that people make mistakes all the time! Don't be afraid, people have to accept you for who you are. ^_^
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