Your family of origin and its influence on you having a good relationship

We talked briefly about what makes for a good relationship in my earlier post – here I want to expand on that a little and cover some other areas you can be aware of when deciding if your new relationship could turn into a good relationship for you.

Another factor in the choosing of a partner is the influence of one’s experience of family life as a child. There is often a subtle similarity between the partner one chooses and the parent of the opposite sex. This may take the form of a physical likeness, or it may be in terms of personality or ways of interacting. The psychoanalytic view of ‘marital fit’ is that there is a kind of unconscious blueprint in everybody of the sort of partner they think would form a good relationship, based often on their experiences with parents. They then choose a partner on the basis of factors they are unaware of and cannot understand. Certainly there is in many