Loving Ways of Loving the Unlovable

There is simply no escaping it. Sooner or later, you are going to run into and have to deal with an angry and bitter person or persons. Unfortunately, it's a fact of life. Someone is angry, bitter, upset, jealous, mad, enraged, and you just happened to cross their path. So what's a body to do when they are faced with this wild beast known as an angry human and they are bent on taking their frustrations with their life out on you?

There are several options open in how to handle an out of control person. Remember that for a person with chronic anger control issues, the anger is their problem, it's eating at them. It's not about you at all. You just happen to be the one they are crying out to for help. How you choose to deal with the angry person can not only help you but perhaps even help lead the angry person to peace.

The first option would be to run the other way. That's easy to do if you happen to be in a store or something of the sort, but not so easy if you are around this person often due to school or work situations or something similar.

The second option is to strike back with a vengeance. This is human nature. When someone hurts you, our first initial reaction is often to return hurt for hurt and pain for pain. But this isn't right. Returning vengeance for a wrong done only makes you look bad, and it only puts a burden on your heart. The angry person is seeking love and acceptance, but often they are so filled with anger, bitterness, strife, and jealously that love simply has no room in their heart.

Why do some people act unlovable? The answer is fear! Someone or something has hurt them. They have been ignored or abused in some way. Their response is to keep people from hurting them again. So what do we do, we reject them instead of loving them. This is not the correct response and only makes matters worst.

Recognize abuse. Abuse is ill treatment toward another person. That person reacts toward that kind of treatment and becomes defensive and acts out.


Try not to react to them. If they are angry becoming angry at them will not help the situation. Getting angry at someone who is afraid is not the loving response.