Secret Thoughts, Desires, Dating

What Qualities Are Necessary For A Life Partner

It begins with desire

Since we have the power to make the rules let's take time and get it right. There's no reason to be unrealistic so we'll keep it real. That's why desire is first on the list.

1 You can't create anything, much less a life partnership without desire. In this sense we're talking about full blown, hot and passionate desire for the life partner of your choosing. Why on earth would you even consider the choice of a life partner without a level of desire that is almost overpowering? Now for...

2 You want to choose someone about whom you can comfortably say, "I really and truly like................" you fill in the name!

Think about your best girlfriend or your best boyfriend. Depending on your personal experience it would be important that you've had

Should You Get Married in Midlife?

Many midlife singles wonder if they should marry or remain single. Some midlifers come out of long-term marriages and wonder if it's worth doing again. Others might have had relationships over the years, but never found someone they wanted to spend their life with.

How to decide if you should get married or stay single? Here are some points to help.

You Might Want to Marry If...

You're In Love

What Is Love?

As we get older it’s important to ask ourselves the question “What Is Love?”

One of the satisfying things about reaching midlife is understanding some of life's deepest questions like "What is love?" Is it the feeling you get when you're head over heels for someone? Can you create love, or choose who you love? Here's what I think.

When People Ask "What Is Love?"

People generally wonder about the question, "What is love?" when they are unsure about how they feel. Or, when they aren't sure if someone loves them. When you have to define your emotion down to the nitty gritty, chances are it isn't as genuine as when you just feel it and go with it.

Love can be different for the various people you meet and relationships you have, but usually you know someone loves you because they tell you or show it. There is love that you have for your children, for friends, and even in some cases, your coworkers. In nearly every case, it can be defined by a combination of positive feelings and actions, that include:

Respect for you

Appreciation of you

10 Things to Know About Love

1. You Can Feel Love Without Attraction

There are different kinds of love, of course, which means that you can love someone with all your heart and soul without attraction. This question is often asked of men and women who have been friends a long time and love each other, and yet, aren't together as a couple.

2. Love Can Change

The fact that love is fluid and ever-changing is usually a good thing, because it means that love can transform from just physical attraction to something much more meaningful. On the flip side, it also means you can fall out of love with someone, too.

3. Love Is Physical and Emotional

Is love something that happens in your heart? Or your head? Turns out, it's a little of both. One study found that "Some symptoms we sometimes feel as a manifestation of the heart may sometimes be coming from the brain.” In other words, love makes an impact on your physical and emotional well being.

How to Stop Waiting for Prince Charming?

If you haven't found Prince Charming yet, be very worried. Be worried that you're betting on a dream that has the potential to divest you of common sense, personal financial resourcefulness, and self-fulfillment directed from within. While the idea of Prince Charming has some qualities to recommend it (such as looking for a partner who is caring and considerate), on the whole you're much better off quitting the fantasizing and sizing up your life's plans with boldness and sagacity instead.

Steps

1 It's all very well for Disney and the fairy tales...Think about why you fantasize about Prince Charming. What is Prince Charming to you? For quite a few romantically inclined girls and women, Prince Charming is the idealized male who will sweep you off your feet and solve all cares henceforth, not to mention being extremely handsome, funny, entertaining, and focused solely on you. Is this sounding like a Disney cartoon or a soap opera already? Think about how fair it is to hold every potential future mate to the high standard of being so perfect, handsome, and so clued into your every wish and need.

And think about where that leaves you – do you still expect to be independent, financially resourceful, able to make your own decisions, and happy to pursue your chosen life goals? Or will Prince Charming mark an end of some of these things for you, and a transfer of your independence and responsibility in return for being cared for with the expectation that rough patches won't ever happen? Try hard to inject some realism into what Prince Charming actually means for you, both right now, and in the longer term.

2  Create your own joy and source of fulfillment. Create your own joy and source of fulfillment. Prince Charming isn't the answer to your lackluster life. You're responsible for your own entertainment, your own hobbies, your own enjoyment in life.

A woman who is able to demonstrate to a potential mate that she's got it all sorted out and is happily self-responsible is a very attractive prospect for a relationship because the man isn't likely to feel he has to be her reason for being. Seeing it from this perspective can be very useful as it clarifies that guys can be scared away from a needy, ill-defined personality with few dreams or goals in life. Unless that is, you'd like to live with a control freak...

3 Quit waiting, start participating. Quit waiting, start participating. Prince Charming isn't going to ride up to your door, ring the doorbell and say, "Wow! You've been doing nothing all these years, how delightful a find you are!" Unless he's keen on living with lazybones and her unblemished, soft hands, then he won't be impressed even if he were to arrive in such fairytale style! Some things to consider about your own wishes to fully participate in life's opportunities include:

Do you want a career? If so, start planning it out in stages and let your dreams run wild about where you want to be at certain stages of your life. This isn't an exercise in cementing yourself in to a certain path; it's one about living your dream as you envisage